Keeping a blog fed with regular updates isn’t always an easy challenge, because at times we get so stuck in a certain mindset that nothing we attempt yields the desired results. If you feel that your blog could do with some more stimulus then this post will help you.
The bully personality
A bully is defined as a person who likes to intimidate others with negative comments, personal attacks and threatening behavior. In short, a bully isn’t a nice person.
Unknown to many of us, most of us carry a self-destructing bully personality within – it’s that inner voice telling you your content is crap, that no one is interested in reading your blog, or worse, that you’re not good enough to write a blog in the first place.
Do you agree?
Why are we the toughest critics of ourselves?
Criticism is good, but only if it’s productive. If you end up in a frozen stupor after mentally beating yourself down – (i.e. as a major procrastinator), no one walks away from the experience as a winner. Especially not you. Your readers also miss out.
I am no psychologist, nor do I claim to have all the answers. What I do know is that too many people seem to revel in the art of mental self-bashing. Your guess as to why we do this is a good as mine.
Blogging should be fun, it should be spontaneous and creative, not a trigger to beat yourself up mentally because you feel unqualified to type some words. Blogging started out as a personal online diary – therefore you should treat it as such.
With the rise of meta blogs (money making) came the pressure, and IMHO this is when we took a wrong turn as a collective presence. By focusing on the monetary part of blogging many people have lost the creative spark that makes a blog fun to read.
How to hush the bully within and reclaim your creative spark
The fastest way to hush the blog bully within yourself is to forget why you write and just do it. Give yourself an hour of distraction-free time.
If you can, move to a quiet spot in nature. Start the exercise by looking around you. Observe without judging, and while doing so try to hush your mind. If you apply force it won’t work. Just do it without pressure.
Take a pen and paper (YES, NO computer) and start writing what comes to mind. Just let go. If you are in the right state of mind (relaxed, centered) your creative muse will take over. Chances are if that happens you will write… and write… and then write some more. Keep writing.
Once the hour is up. Stop.
Now walk back to your computer and say a quiet thanks to yourself for having persisted with the muse bit. Open up your favorite blog editor and start writing the first thing that comes to mind.
Do not judge, do not stop, do not edit – just keep going.
You’ll be surprised what comes out of this experiment. Once you’re done you should have crafted a fab new blog post that is worthy of your biggest bully – YOU!